I spoke to a friend the other day. They are discontent and looking for a new career. They feel they haven’t been treated well and are not appreciated by their management team, maybe it’s time to try something completely different to what they’ve always known.
After getting rejected from a job application they rang to express their frustration at not being given an opportunity to try a new path, to forge a new career in a different industry. They are feeling trapped and frustrated and their discontent is growing into misery and spiralling out of control. (well, that’s a bit OTT but you know what I mean…)
My initial advice was to feel the rejection, know they are worthy and have fantastic skills and there are other opportunities made just for them. They were allowed to feel horrible and they may have a pity party, but just don’t unpack and stay there.
It hit me later that evening when my mind was engrossed in cooking dinner, they were focusing on what they didn’t want, rather than what they did want. So rather than moaning about how no one will give them a go, and having to be stuck in this dead end job, how about we start envisioning what the perfect job would look like?
This meant seeing this discontent and rejection as an opportunity to finally get their life on the path they actually want, rather than sticking with what they’ve always known. They needed to really shift their mindset to understand this thought pattern.
This was their opportunity to design the life they actually do want, get off the merry-go-round, stop and understand they can BE, DO and HAVE anything they desire.
What an opportunity!
So this message goes out to YOU – the one who feels trapped in your job, feels like no one will give you a go at something new, and you can’t just up and leave your job because you’ve got bills to pay, mouths to feed etc.
YOU- the one who has a dream of a life they want to live. YOU – the one who knows you deserve to be treated better.
Start imagining your ideal life. What is your ideal job? Why would you get out of bed in the morning? What would you love to do and not get paid for?
Then, every day, write this ideal life down in a quick statement. Be grateful for this new life that will come to you, and feel and believe it. Doors will open for you that you didn’t even realise were there, let alone could be opened. Opportunities will come in the form of phone calls, emails, meeting new people.
Once you focus your energy on what you DO WANT, rather than what you don’t want, special things start happening.
This process works, trust me. People have asked me why I’ve had 3 different jobs in the last 18 months. It’s because of the above process that I’ve gone through. I’ve gotten exactly what I asked for, every time.
My issue is that I’m still working on what I actually want in life..and then asking for the right thing! 3rd time around and I think I’ve finally got the clarity that has given me my latest opportunity.
Feel your discontent…let the frustration wash over you… and then get up, and do something about it.
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